Some random thoughts of mine on "the one" :
A common train of thought in today's society is that there is one person out there, Mr./Mrs. Right, who can complete them. They just have to find them. But is there really just one person that you would be able to marry?
I think the concept of "the one" can be a destructive one. The tendency is to set the standard high - too high - and turn down perfectly acceptable suitors because of minor character flaws. Young women especially need to face reality and realize that Prince Charming will be a sinful young man who does not live to make her happy. I realize that if the Lord wills for me to marry, that my husband will not be perfect. He'll have flaws, habits that annoy me, and sins that he struggles with. If we search for that perfect young man with his own home, a well-paying job, perfect credentials, no flaws...we will never find him.
I do think there are certain people we are "compatible" with. But is there only one? Nope. Neither should we settle for the first person we find. Wait for God's best. Keep an open mind, she/he won't always be what we imagined. Stop waiting for the one, and look at the godly young people around you.
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I believe God does have some 'one' picked out for us. The 'perfect' man/woman for us. None of us are perfect, but God does have the 'perfect' person picked out, if He wills for us to marry. Just my opinion.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Princess Eilonwy. Jerimiah 29.11 tells us that God had plans for Isreal even though he was currently punishing them. God has plans for us as well. They may or may not include a spouse.
ReplyDeleteBiblically, I don't think we can defend that there is only one person, one choice that we can make. I believe there are several choices that we can make under God's will. Being a sin-cursed world, each option will have its particular flaws, but I don't think there's just one right answer. Hopefully that makes sense?
ReplyDeleteBasically Londa and Jessica are coming at the question from the two angles we know all of life from. Jessica is coming at it from man's responsibility point of view and Londa is coming at it from God's sovereignty point of view. Our responsibility is not to see if we can just find Mr. Right or Miss Perfect, if you think they are right, get some council and go ahead. However, ultimately in God's will there is one particular person picked out for us to marry if we are to and he or she is the perfect one. God wouldn't choose someone who wasn't the best for us. The flaws within that person are part of the perfection, lessons we are meant to learn, etc.
ReplyDeleteYes, but I think I would still disagree that there is just one person and one person only that God has predestined for us to marry. :)
ReplyDeleteBut see you then have a problem. If there is more than one person we are predestined to marry than we will marry all of them. If something is predestined to happen it will. If we are predestined to be saved then we will, there is no might, or hope, it will happen. So by saying there is more than one mate predestined for us you are either redefining predestination (or perhaps misunderstanding it) or you are suggesting we will marry more than one person. Hopefully that will not come about in a sinful way, but if we are predestined to marry more than one person we will marry them all.
ReplyDeleteFrom our perspective we have a choice and we chose that which is the best according to our own wisdom. But from God's perspective whichever one we chose was already decreed for us to choose. That is what is meant by predestination.
Okay, you are right. I guess what I'm trying to "get at" is, has God already chosen the person we will marry or has He given us the freewill to choose between several options and whichever choice we make would be within His will? To us, we will always be choosing the best option. The question is how much does freewill come into play.
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